could this be what Paul is saying?

from Captivating...

"...many of the Scriptures on the Role of women in the church are a reflection of God's concern for a woman's protection and spiritual covering. We live in a dangerous world. Satan's opposition of the Church is vicious. He bears a special hatred for Eve. It follows that God would want to ensure that a woman helping to advance his Kingdom would be offered the covering and protection of good men. Issues of headship and authority are intended for the benefit of women, not their suppression...
God desires that wherever and however you offer yourself to the Body of Christ, you'll have the protection of good men over you. Not to hold you back, but to set you free as a woman. Christ has made man his warrior, to offer his strength of behalf of Eve so that she might flourish...we're talking about the true fellowship of those whose hearts are captured for Jesus, who have become his intimate allies. You want to offer yourself to those who thirst for what you have."

Captivating is about "unveiling the mystery of a woman's soul"...

The title sounds cheesey, but the book has been amazing to read. God's doing some big things in me, healing some deep loneliness, but doing it this time in the context of me learning to live in a community of believers -- and stepping out with my gifts, offering them, and trusting that there is a place for me...an irreplaceable role in a great adventure.